The internet fully supports a waiter who offered a “surprise” dessert to a recovering alcoholic that included alcohol without realizing the complexity of the situation.
the Reddit post, titled, “TIFU [Today I F**ked Up] by serving an alcoholic dessert to [an] alcoholic,” has been upvoted 10,900 times since it was shared on May 3 on the subreddit.
the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism reported that evidence shows that about 90% of alcoholics are “likely” to have a relapse within four years of treatment.
The website also reported that in 2019, 25.8% of people aged 18 and over said they had participated in binge drinking in the previous month. In addition, 6.3% admitted to having also consumed excessive amounts of alcohol in the past month.
Editor @countmontekristo relayed the situation in a short post, revealing that they are a server in a restaurant. That day, the waiter threw a party that included six customers.
The original poster (OP) asked them if they were celebrating something, and the party replied, “Yes! We’re celebrating Evie’s birthday!”
When the waiter asked what kind of birthday it was, one woman replied, “A big graduation!” However, no further details were given.
It is the restaurant’s policy to offer a “surprise dessert” to celebrating guests at the end of their meal. The OP brought out a “limoncello cake” and they told the party what the cake was called, but not what ingredients it contained.
The OP wrote: “Now I know what you’re thinking. ‘Aren’t you supposed to list all the ingredients for your fancy pants place?’ Sure… If we’re not overwhelmed right now, or if they pointed out any allergies when asked at first, or if we know all the ingredients (this was a new special, and I didn’t unable to attend the briefing that day due to obligations).”
However, when the OP asked his co-worker about the dessert, he was given a “flavor profile”, but the co-worker was “too busy for details”.
Later the OP came back to the table and the dessert was half eaten. The woman who was celebrating asked, “Is there alcohol in there?”
The Redditor revealed that this is indeed the case. “It’s one of the main ingredients, but not in an alarming amount,” they said. “It’s mostly just for flavoring.”
But she replied, “I’m celebrating my first year of sobriety and sobriety.”
A few seconds of “awkward” silence ensued involving the waiter and customers staring at each other at the table before things ended.
More than 1,000 comments have poured in on the unfortunate situation, and the internet is rallying around the OP in support.
“Freelapsing” has been mentioned, or when one accidentally uses drugs or alcohol without meaning to. “Recovering addicts call it a freelapse,” said one Redditor. “Everything they do after that first bite is up to them, not you or your establishment.”
A commentator admitted they hadn’t had an alcoholic drink in 13 years, adding that the situation was not the waiter’s fault and that they “didn’t give a fuck”.
“That’s how it happens to sober people all the time,” they said. “We’re learning to ride it. If it was out of shape, it’s on it. Hope you don’t blame yourself.”
Another Redditor revealed that they did the same thing when they were servers about nine or ten years ago. They served a “black forest cake” to a table full of AA people [Alcoholics Anonymous] who were celebrating a “sobriety anniversary”. However, the cake was “soaked in cherry liqueur”.
“It is one of my fondest and most vivid memories from years of service,” they added. “Having said that, a sober friend told me that it doesn’t ‘count’ because the sober person didn’t deliberately consume alcohol. Basically, intention matters. So I felt a little better in hearing that.”
One Redditor called the situation an “innocent f**k up” from the server, adding, “Oof. But I wouldn’t let that weigh on your conscience.”
While another Reddit user revealed that the same situation happened to them a year after being sober. They admitted they had “freaked out” and called out people on their program, “and they were all like, ‘Do you want to drink? No? Well, enjoy the fucking desert.’ It’s been six years now, and the only thing I remain vigilant about is real drinks.”
A Redditor chimed in to reveal that they felt it was “up to” the woman to let the server know about the situation. “If I was allergic to nuts, that’s the first thing I would tell the waiter at any restaurant,” they thought. “Better to avoid anaphylaxis (or alcoholic relapse) than to rely on chance and then play the victim!”
Yet another person supports the OP, and they don’t think they are at fault. The wife didn’t explain more about the anniversary, nor did she ask about the ingredients.
The Redditor added, “Which is on her if she’s avoiding something that’s not a known allergen, and there’s not enough alcohol to warrant identification. How the hell were you supposed to know at unless you are told?”
However, another Redditor admitted that they were “confused” because they hadn’t heard of a restaurant serving “alcoholic products” without first checking that everything was okay.
“Not just whether or not the person in question is of legal drinking age, but whether the person even wants alcohol to begin with,” they added. “I feel like that’s why most of the restaurants I’ve been to have played it safe with the ‘free’ desserts, serving a basic fruit pie or a slice of chocolate cake or whatever. something like that.”
Newsweek contacted Redditor @countmontekristo for comment.
This isn’t the only viral moment involving restaurants and servers. A man has a waiter fired for a published TikTok video that made fun of his mother. A waiter received a small tip of less than $7 on a $73 ticket. In addition, the Internet has denounced a man for not tipping after a restaurant would not serve alcohol to his wife.